Come On Seriously....

          This is only and 100% in response to the idiotic comments made by almost every male on-air "talent" on Fox News the past few days addressing the single statistic that 40% of women now serve as the breadwinners for their families. I am truly and utterly disgusted by their comments and no matter how much they blog about "feminist" and "emo lefties getting their undies in a wad" over their comments....well Mr. Erickson and Mr. Bolling, this is one woman giving you a big gigantic fantastic F U!
         I am not even the breadwinner in my family, not even close by far. But I know a ton of women who make more than their respective partners and guess what guys?? They work just as hard, are just as educated, and deserve to be paid what they are paid. It amazes me that your arguments for this as some sort of travesty is even accepted. Mr Bolling believes, "If you read into that study," he said, "the reason is exactly what we've been talking about right here: the breakdown of the American family." For the love of all logic man.....we are coming out of one the most punishing recessions. Mr. Bolling, when Dad gets laid-off, would you rather them collect welfare so Mom can stay home, do laundry and cook the hamburger helper which is all they could probably afford. Or should she go out and get a job because she can. Why does it so holy offend you that a mother or wife could go out and contribute to the well being of her family, possibly monetarily more so than her husband? Pray tell me how in Gods name this one statistic is contributing to the downfall of American society? And Mr. Erickson,  your male as "dominant role" is far from scientific or even logical. Do you understand what sets humans apart from all other mammals?? Apparently not, since you lack the intelligence to even understand enlightened human beings. There are already enough men in this society who undeservedly walk around like silver back gorillas, we do not need more. As for Mr. Lou Dobbs, what a disppointment you came out to be in this argument.
         The rest of your arguments are so offensive and idiotic they should not even be addressed. The level of incompetence you have shown towards your "profession" these last few days in my opinion warrants some serious demotions. You are undeserving in your position as mouthpieces for anything.  I would also like to thank Greta Van Susteren (never ever thought I would do that but I am) for calling you neanderthals out. Which just shows, people who do believe in different things can actually find a lot of commonalities. I applaud her convictions and standing up for her ability!
          I am so tired of people being able to bully their crappy opinions on to everybody. You cannot pick and chose the data provided for legitimate studies to sustain a status quo that only serves you better and your kind. Why can we not demand more from these people whose views and opinions reach millions! We need to demand more civility from each other. The fact that they are able to sit their on television and equate women's success with the downfall of American society is abhorrent and incorrect. It is their notion of how life should be for everyone that is contributing to the downfall of American society. Why are they still on the air? Get someone who is a little more serious, lets say about life in general, who can actually put into perspective what is important. Someone who live in reality, lets say.

 For once I wholeheartedly agree with Greta Van Susteren...these men have truly lost their mind and for that they need to go-

A Little Justification

           I am really tired of doing everything wrong. I mean EVERYTHING. As a "news" junkie, well..."read anything interesting put in front of my face" junkie, I tend to take quick breaks throughout the day to either read a quick news story, and I also have NPR on as I work, so I hear them as well. This is most definitely contributing to the downward spiral of self-loathing I find myself wandering down even further every day. For instance,today, I just learned that I am such an old-fashioned, feminist wannabe, loser because I failed to take my husbands name when we got married. Regardless of whatever personal reasons (it seemed like a lot of work and I am lazy, plus I already had a functional last name that I rather enjoyed, not to mention the fact that it is just a name) people feel the need to write an article or blog for a news source to publish, via the web, letting me know how wrong I am in that decision. Wrong apparently, because...OMG...sit down....I am not longer part of MEANINGLESS trend! Holy shit, I no longer am doing what everyone else is doing,. If I cared maybe I would hyper ventilate in a paper bag, run to the social security office screaming for help, drink myself into a stupor, or just not give a shit, which is where I am currently at. But, I do not need to be criticized or shamed into doing what everyone else thinks I should be doing. Why do we continue to believe that we have a right to constantly criticize everything that everyone does all the time, regardless of how mundane and unimportant the topic truly is? Now, I know, we (everyone in the world) should not take this personally. If people ultimately feel the need to point out everyone else's flaws, there is usually something else bothering them. Even though they address these feeling like as toddler would, we should just take it in stride, because here is my point, the polite, empathic, and generous thing to do is let if roll off our backs and do not do the same thing to other people hoping this cycle to negative interactions between people ends.

           Our society is just plain mean and I fear it is getting meaner and ruder by the day. People feel entitled to insult each other on Facebook and Twitter, driving, in line, at bars or restaurants (patrons and staff) and in the office. It is a society conducive to criticizing people for the most frivolous reasons to make ourselves feel better or more important. My mother always used to tell my sisters and I when we fought that, "If you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all!" Followed by a forced one minute hug. Twenty years later, she cannot be more right. Why is it so hard for people to just shut their mouths or arrest their fingers at the key board? I am not one who gets off on making other people feel bad, even if it is justified. I just really have a hard time doing it and on the occasion it does happen I literally lose sleep over it. I also am a very pensive person to say the least. Everything I do in life is very intentional and thought out. From what my last name is, my college major, who I vote for, all the way to the products that I buy. Hence, why I and a lot of other people out there take constant insults about decisions we make in life personally. I am proud of my morals and values. I am not exceptionally materialistic. I do not judge people based on what they have or do not have. I like to judge them on who they are.

       Furthermore, everyone has different life experiences and backgrounds. Who are we to invalidate each others feelings, emotions, or beliefs, which is what we do when we constantly harp on the decisions we all have to make on a daily basis. I am proud of what I have done in my life. I do not need some news article telling me that I picked the wrong major in college, fucking up henceforth, the rest of my life and career path. I am proud of my political beliefs. I know what I value and why. I worked hard to write a thesis on political ideology, I do not need someone to tell me via Facebook or Twitter that I am an idiot or shallow because of who I do or do not support politically. I am proud to have amazing friends from all sides of the political spectrum and it is what it is and we all accept each other for who we are. I love my friends for the people they are, their generous hearts, I know how hard they work at life in general, who am I to tell them they are wrong at anything? Additionally, everyone out there works hard and often times crappy jobs or 2 jobs to make it. Regardless of how much they get paid, they are worth far more for what they do or do not value in life, than what their paycheck says. Just because people may choose a smaller house or a simpler life does not mean they have less value as people.

         Life as we know it is hard enough. In anger, or frustration, it is never OK to make people feel like they are less of person because they made a different choice or one you do not like, no matter how big or small. There are so many important issues that need solving, when we spend more time making other people feel like shit than getting our daily issues fixed, we waste time. Making sure that we take the time out of our day to say, "I told you so" or hoping other people fail, is a waste of humanity. Actually blindly believing that your way, idea, or problem, is the best, most important, or only way, is failing to see the joys in everyday life, such as, sharing in experiences with people who are different, learning more from others and the world around you, and just plain being decent. We need to encourage each other to be different and take risks. That is how humanity has gotten to where it is today. How about we enjoy the fruits of our past efforts and focusing on how we can make it even better for everyone that comes after us? I would rather spend my time on this earth learning and trying to understand more, than convincing everyone that I am right and therefore, more important all the time. Regardless of political beliefs, yearly income, or livelihood, everyone can treat others the way they want to be treated. Lift others up instead of clawing them down. Be human-